It’s time to love heroically!

Join John and Stasi as they candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they’ve gained from the challenges they have faced. Each talks independently about what they’ve learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives.

Marriage is fabulously hard; we need to get past the shame and confusion surrounding the undertaking of marriage before we can truly deal with our day-to-day situations.

Love & War shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling on both men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. Walking alongside John and Stasi Eldredge, every couple can discover how their journey together is growing into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their own.

Find life in God

Deal with your brokenness

Learn to shut down spiritual warfare against your marriage

John & Stasi will take participants through the thickets of married life with candid discussions of topics such as:

Sex: A fraught issue for many couples, but the Eldredges’ message is simple: married couples need to do it, often, in a way they both enjoy, and if that’s not the case they need to deal with why it isn’t.

Spiritual Warfare: marriage is an assignment at the frontlines of an epic battle being fought for the human heart. The enemy is not your spouse. It’s Satan. Yet most Christians don’t feel equipped to actively pray against this evil.

Taboo Topics: every couple has them: unaddressed issues that are left to fester, leading to hiding and resentment.

Companionship: the bedrock of a marriage. True friendship with your mate, taking real delight in their company, is essential to the health of a marriage.

Mission: Contrary to popular belief, the goal of marriage is not a “happy little home.” Husbands and wives need to share a sense of “we are in this together,” beyond the raising of children. Marriage needs this experience as much as sexual intimacy.

John Eldredge:

John Eldredge is an author (you probably figured that out), a counselor, and teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own heart in his love, and learn to live in his Kingdom. John grew up in the suburbs of Los Angeles (which he hated), and spent his boyhood summers on his grandfather’s cattle ranch in eastern Oregon (which he loved). John met his wife, Stasi, in high school (in drama class). But their romance did not begin until they each came to faith in Christ, after high school. John earned his undergraduate degree in Theater at Cal Poly, and directed a theater company in Los Angeles for several years before moving to Colorado with Focus on the Family, where he taught at the Focus on the Family Institute.

John earned his master’s degree in Counseling from Colorado Christian University, under the direction of Larry Crabb and Dan Allender. He worked as a counselor in private practice before launching Ransomed Heart in 2000. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs with their three sons (Samuel, Blaine and Luke), their golden retriever (Oban), and two horses (Whistle and Kokolo). While all of this is factually true, it somehow misses describing an actual person. He loves the outdoors passionately, and all beauty, Shakespeare, bow hunting, a good cigar, anything having to do with adventure, poetry, March Madness, working in the shop, fly fishing, classic rock, the Tetons, fish tacos, George MacDonald, green tea, buffalo steaks, dark chocolate, wild and open places, horses running, and too much more to name. He also uses the expression “far out” way too much.

Stasi Eldredge:

Stasi Eldredge loves writing and speaking to women about the goodness of God. She spent her childhood years in Prairie Village, Kansas for which she is truly grateful. Her family moved to Southern California back in the really bad smog days when she was ten. She loved theatre and acting and took a partiality to her now husband John when they were friends in high school. Stasi received her Bachelors Degree in Sociology from San Diego State University which she attended primarily because it was close to the beach. She became a Christian her junior year in college and dove into the ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. After graduating, Stasi joined Youth for Christ heading up a ministry to pregnant teenagers and teen mothers. She has been active in ministry ever since including theatre ministry, crisis pregnancy center ministry, women’s ministry and children’s ministry. The Eldredge family moved to Colorado in 1991. YAY!

Stasi loves the joy and freedom that comes from knowing the passionate, stunning love of Jesus Christ and lives to see others come to know him more deeply. She loves worship music, time to bake, celebrating life, getting lost in a good novel, baths, walking in the woods, hearing her son’s laughter, the sound of wind in the trees, a good cup of coffee, the smell of the earth after it rains, a powerful turn of a phrase, animals in the wild, gardens, freshly mowed grass, family traditions, cherished friendships, the Tetons, rivers, mountain lakes, the grace and beauty of horses, the affection of her dog and most of all her family and her God.